Let’s talk _authentic self and building healthy relationships
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Photo by MARK ADRIANE on UnsplashLet’s Talk… establishing your authentic self and building intimate relationships that impact truly being yourself.
Greetings beautiful people and travelers in self-use transformation for success and well-being..
Khalif Ibere here Mindscape Architect, Psychologist, and Human Optimal Performance for Empowerment (HOPE) behavior expert & advocate
The beauty in life is meeting another human being who is authentic, secure, and unafraid to have a relationship based on the basic human need of relatedness (having a connection with another human being) and establishing a healthy sense of belonging. Relationships begin to sour after the hidden and unspoken communication of defensiveness, a host of fears, and manipulation begins TO SPEAK LOUDER than the actual need to build a healthy relationship. False communication becomes the normal way of DOING the relationship. This has become the norm for relationships as I have witnessed in my counseling sessions for couples, and individuals attempting to navigate their lives and their important relationships.
Unfortunately, false communication or the illusion of communicating has become the norm in a world that is constantly communicating through social media, texting, and other formats that push less personal INTERACTION.
Therefore, profound healthy relationships appear to be a minority experience is relationships that have passed the beginning stage of ‘freshness’. Once people reach the stage of true personal exposure to another person, the freshness is over and the walls come up and the fears block vulnerability that is necessary for growing a deeper bond. It takes two healthy people willingly and openly ready to have a healthy relationship for a healthy relationship to happen. Thus, challenging times for those wanting more authentic relationships is at hand. The challenge is not from being willing to personally examining thought, emotions and actions to develop an authentic identity and grow a healthy relationship with another person RATHER the challenge is from a lack of skills to assertively communicate with others while attempting to navigate their own developmental needs. Think about that before moving forward. How does this impact your relationships?
The Sacred Mindset System understands the struggle to reach your personal optimal performance state (POPS) to live the life that you want and the struggle to navigate the current important relationships that may have been needed during many milestones throughout your life. However, healthy relationships will endure the consequences of your personal growth and development. Yet, many have learned to accept you in the form of yourself that was not your authentic self and may not accept the better you (from your perspective of course). When you change, they have to change how they see and interact with you. Your force them to change! Many do not want that responsibility to re-look at the person that you are. So, the question is born, ‘Are you living the life that represents your authentic identity and are you willing to do the work to make your life what you want it to be?
The life you live... is the life that you create!
With that, remember that you are perfectly designed to get the results that you get. Is it time to change your mindset to change your design to get the outcomes you truly want in life?
As always in good mental health…be well, it is truly your choice
https://www.thesacredmindsetsystem.com/get-on-track-mindmap